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6+ Months of No Scott


Remember that time Scott was gone for more than six months?

Oh, I do.


It was hard. But it was also a great time to reset.

No Stranger to Military Duty

Scott is in the Air Force National Guard. He’s been in the military since before we got married, about eight years now (when I originally wrote the post). He was first in the reserves in Washington, but he switched to the guard when we moved back to Utah. And he switched careers, from medical to IT security/communications. Because of this craziness, he didn’t have his first deployment until last November.


We have had our craziness with military life, though. Scott was in basic and training while we dated. And he was in his career training when we got married. So, he flew home for a weekend, we got hitched, and he flew back to training. We met up three weeks later in California where he had more training and I lived in a hotel for a month and a half.


And then he switched careers when we moved back to Utah. For his new training, he went to Mississippi for six months while I stayed in Utah to keep my job. During this time I visited him every couple of months and we had a blast discovering new beaches.


So, yeah, we’re not strangers to military duty. It’s been our whole marriage.

No Scott Equals Hard Knock Life

So, why was this deployment so hard?


Remember that time I had really bad anxiety and quit my job? Then we sold our house? And we put adoption on hold, moved in with my parents, and quit our business ventures? All that happened just a few months before Scott left—a year ago now (again, when I originally wrote this post in 2019). And even though I was working to come down from my anxiety high (or low… depends on how you look it, I guess), I didn’t do a lot of relaxing. We had a house to pack up and sell. I had young women’s camp to run. Scott found some temporary work with his unit. We worked to shut down our business. There was a lot going on.

Plus, there’s the whole Scott being my best friend, the guy I go to for everything, my number-one support, my motivation, my comfort.


During Scott’s deployment, I was lonely, healing, and trying to figure out what I should do with my life.